Does where we live impact our kids?

Choosing where to start your family is an important question for all families. Learn more from CareNectar expert Mirella Alexis about how urban, suburban, and rural environments impact children’s development.

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My husband and I can’t decide where we want to start our family. Neither of us has a strong preference, and we are wondering what’s the difference between an urban, suburban, and rural upbringing for our child? How does where we live impact our children?


It’s one of the age-old questions that many have asked before. Everyone is different, so there is no one best place to raise anyone. And just as each child is different, so is how and where they will thrive. Since we don’t know from the onset of birth each child’s preference or interest, we have to do best with what we know.

Luckily for you, raising a child in urban, suburban, and rural environments all have their own benefits. Urban living offers access to a lot of great amenities for your child’s developmental needs. Educational outings will be more accessible with local libraries, theaters, museums, parks, classes, and activities. More schooling and childcare options are a great benefit too. A greater representation of diversity is also a benefit of raising a child in an urban environment. This includes cultural enrichment found by engaging with a more culturally diverse population through museums and other outings, food, and education.

Suburban living can also offer some of the aspects of city living that families enjoy, often with a lower cost of living and more space. Depending on how many children you have and your income level, this may be beneficial in the long run. Some find it easier to foster community in a suburban environment as well.

If space is what you like, a rural setting may work well for you and your family. While homes are generally the same size in rural communities as they are in suburban areas, you may get more land. Access to more land can teach children how to garden, farm, care for nature, grow food, and take care of animals.

No matter how you look at it, each environment has its benefits. In the end, it’s great to raise children in various settings and expose them to as many experiences as possible. I’m sure you’ll pick the perfect place for you and your family!

Meet The Expert

Mirella Alexis

Mirella has been a family and childcare advocate for nearly two decades. With her bachelor’s degree in early childcare education, Mirella immediately started expanding her portfolio as a professional nanny, early childhood educator, and newborn care specialist. She later obtained her certification in child nutrition, positive discipline, and child abuse prevention. She expanded her professional reach more in 2016 by taking on the role of labor and postpartum doula. In 2020, Mirella became the Vice President of The Nanny Sitter Fund. She’s excited to be bringing her passion for childcare to the masses, making child welfare everyone’s responsibility. Learn more about her at